How to Make People Listen – Any good relationship always depends on understanding each other and mutual respect.  We try to stay away from those people who do not give us the value we want. But Lack of attention from someone we like can be hurtful. How many times has it happened to you that, someone ever interrupted your heartfelt conversation to talk about something else? While you have carefully listened to them, they choose to ignore you when it is their turn.  Yes, the feeling is hurting, and not being able to make anyone listen to you is frustrating.

This obnoxious behaviour can be traced to many reasons- it can be due to their talkative nature, their know-it-all attitude, impatience, anxiety or simply their ungentle manner of not paying attention. According to the psychologists, this character trait can be an outcome of their past experiences of childhood trauma or being a hyper, aggressive and anxious person.  The lack of listening is the response to their defensiveness, unwillingness to admit mistakes, and lack of value for others. If a person is unknowingly having ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), it is very difficult for them to concentrate and carefully listen after some time.

Their poor listening skills may irritate you but sometimes some mistakes in our communication pattern may also add spur to their bad manner. Now, if you still want to have a conversation with the person of your choice, then you have to keep some tactics in mind. According to psychologists, these small strategies can grab their attention and reduce their lack of interest:

1. Follow-up Questions:

While talking, try to end it with an open-ended question. If you give him a chance to follow-up questions, it will work as a hook for them.

2.    Let them Know Your Emotions:

Let them be aware that you are hurt due to their behaviour without complaining about it. Use the ‘I’ phrase and inform them about the eventual consequences they have to face. For example, say something like, ‘I feel unheard when I share my thoughts, and you don’t respond.’

3.    Show How to Listen:

While in a chat, demonstrate how they should ideally listen to you when you are talking. Listen effectively, nod, make eye contact and respond aptly to their points.

4.    Be patient Yet Persistent:

Always repeat the important points of your speech to emphasize your message, but don’t unnecessarily repeat yourself. Just stick to your point, and finish your sayings.

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5.    Become Calm:

Lastly, whatever you do, never lose your temper for their ill-treatment, or else, they will be more defensive and less focused on you.

Remember, the person may not be tired, ill, upset, or willing to talk. Remember, love wins all obstacles. It may be their ill manner or their inability to make bonds. Maintain your dignity and set your boundaries. But along with that try to keep patience and lend a hand to help. These were some effective strategies for making people listen.

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